What Valentine's Day Should Really Be About
By: Gabby Frost
I'm sure all of us have heard someone say, "I wish I had a Valentine!!!" at least once in our lives. All of us have also probably heard someone reply to this statement with, "oh, get over it, who cares" or something along those lines.
For the first couple years that I understood the twenty-some kids in my class weren't my Valentines, I thought people were ridiculous for complaining about not having a Valentine. I got so sick of people whining about how they didn't have a significant other for just one day of the year. But recently, I've realized that it's valid for people to say this. Our society has shamed single people for years, especially at younger ages, and not just through Valentine's Day.
In the past 4 years of being a high schooler, there's been 5 dances I've been able to attend. I've heard so many people tell me that they didn't want to attend these because they didn't have a date. The idea that you need a date to go to a school dance has been perpetuated so harshly that some people are too self-conscious to go stag. Even after high school and college, people worry about getting married at a specific age. Those who have exceeded this age often feel like they're "running out of time," and people tend to ask them when they'll settle down like everyone else.
I have no tolerance for this detrimental standard anymore, and want people's mentalities to change. Stop making people think they need another person in their life to be complete or valid. Everyone is already a whole by themselves and doesn't need someone to be "the half that completes them." We need to make Valentine's Day more about love in general, not just to a significant other. Let's celebrate ourselves, our friends, and our family too. Our world is overflowing with pessimism and we need to use the spirit of optimism to defeat it.
As a society, we need to encourage people to be their own "Valentine." Many people have spent Valentine's Day feeling pathetic because they didn't have someone to love them. People who have a low self-esteem don't get told enough that they're allowed to love themselves, and that is something that needs to change. You don't necessarily need another person to love you, you can love yourself.
Instead of bashing on those who want someone to show them love this Valentine's, give them love. Empower them, compliment them, whatever you want that can uplift. We need to start spreading more positivity around instead of criticizing everyone for the smallest remarks or actions. It will definitely go a long way in our world if we begin to spread the idea of self-love and platonic love. Love is not just restricted to two people in a romantic relationship, it can also apply to friendships, family, and yourself.
In the words of Donna Meagle and Tom Haverford – "treat yo self."