Biology Doesn't Matter

By: Evan Kalvesmaki (@GASOLllNE)


“But, Biologically…”

No. Stop right there. Do not continue. Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200.

I want to start off by saying, it’s incredibly offensive to transgender people to use any variation of this phrase, and to ignore their preferred pronouns or question their identity because you want to know what’s below their belt. To that, I say, it’s none of your business unless you’re going to bed with them.

Here’s a pro-tip, do not EVER say this to a trans person. Trans meaning male-to-female, female-to-male, bigender, genderfluid, non-binary, meaning anything on the gender spectrum. Do not EVER say this to a trans person.

“But why? It’s the truth.”

And trans people deal with it every day. Not every trans person is dysphoric, but for those who are, it can be extremely triggering for them, and if for some reason that isn’t enough to stop you, grow up. Realize that just because people live different lives that you may not understand, does not give you any right, under any circumstance, to attack them for it. And even if hostility is not your intent, by pushing constantly and consistently questioning someone’s identity, is extremely offensive.

So, you might be wondering, “What’s the offense, exactly? Why is it so harsh?”

The offense is that, by insisting on their biological selection, you are invalidating their identity and seeing them as what’s in their pants, not by who they want to be seen as. There’s no reason for you to point it out, they’re well aware.

“So what am I supposed to do with them, then?”

Call them by their preferred name and pronouns. Forget about what’s in their underwear and learn that it doesn’t matter.

“But I’m curious!”

Well, you know what they say. Curiosity killed the cat.